Comments on: Finding Grief Support Online http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-grief/grief-support/finding-grief-support-online/ Tue, 16 Mar 2010 23:06:23 -0800 hourly 1 By: Mary Bart http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-grief/grief-support/finding-grief-support-online/comment-page-1/#comment-1594 Mary Bart Mon, 28 Dec 2009 22:27:16 +0000 http://test.opentohope.com/?p=3398#comment-1594 Hello to All: I want to let everyone know about our Grief Support Services On-line. "Losing Our Parents" is an Internet-based registered charity that offers free support and education to people who are dealing with the declining health or death of a parent. We offer both peer support and have just launched a "Network of Experts". Everyone involved in our charity has either lost a parent, or is dealing with their declining health. We are all volunteers, just trying to help. Please drop by for a visit at: www.losingourparents.com Hello to All:

I want to let everyone know about our Grief Support Services On-line.

“Losing Our Parents” is an Internet-based registered charity that offers free support and education to people who are dealing with the declining health or death of a parent.

We offer both peer support and have just launched a “Network of Experts”. Everyone involved in our charity has either lost a parent, or is dealing with their declining health. We are all volunteers, just trying to help. Please drop by for a visit at:

http://www.losingourparents.com

]]> By: Angela http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-grief/grief-support/finding-grief-support-online/comment-page-1/#comment-1543 Angela Wed, 16 Dec 2009 14:46:03 +0000 http://test.opentohope.com/?p=3398#comment-1543 Hello. 8 years ago, I was in a marriage that was unbalanced but not altogether unhappy. Years later, although I know it wasn't all me, I also see that I was sometimes selfish and badly behaved. Spoiled and inconsiderate even. I left my husband for another man. I didn't have an affair with him while my ex-husband and I were together but, nonetheless, it wasn't good behaviour. I moved in with the other man, in another city. We fought a lot, he had a bad temper and did and said some things to me that were so unkind and hurtful that I will probably never be the same person again. Things weren't so great and honestly, I felt that I probably deserved to feel this pain for taking my ex for granted and tossing him aside. Things were just starting to get better for my current partner and I when my ex-husband was killed in an accident. That was a year ago and to this day, I am a complete mess. I fight back tears at least 10 times a day. I can't listen to music because so much of it makes me fall apart. I can't seem to remember how unfulfilled and miserable I was when we were married. Only how much I wish I'd never left. I feel like he'd still be alive if we'd stayed together because circumstances would have prevented the accident (as a secular humanist, I don't belieive in "meant to happen"). I miss him (and his family) so much but I feel like all the guilt and regret and self-loathing are complicating any chance I have of separating those emotions from the normal progression of the grieving process. It seems crazy to be in the depths of such an inescapably deep pit of depression over an ex that I hadn't even seen in the 7 years before he died. I'm on the edge of falling apart all the time and I don't know what to do. Hello. 8 years ago, I was in a marriage that was unbalanced but not altogether unhappy. Years later, although I know it wasn’t all me, I also see that I was sometimes selfish and badly behaved. Spoiled and inconsiderate even. I left my husband for another man. I didn’t have an affair with him while my ex-husband and I were together but, nonetheless, it wasn’t good behaviour. I moved in with the other man, in another city. We fought a lot, he had a bad temper and did and said some things to me that were so unkind and hurtful that I will probably never be the same person again. Things weren’t so great and honestly, I felt that I probably deserved to feel this pain for taking my ex for granted and tossing him aside. Things were just starting to get better for my current partner and I when my ex-husband was killed in an accident. That was a year ago and to this day, I am a complete mess. I fight back tears at least 10 times a day. I can’t listen to music because so much of it makes me fall apart. I can’t seem to remember how unfulfilled and miserable I was when we were married. Only how much I wish I’d never left. I feel like he’d still be alive if we’d stayed together because circumstances would have prevented the accident (as a secular humanist, I don’t belieive in “meant to happen”). I miss him (and his family) so much but I feel like all the guilt and regret and self-loathing are complicating any chance I have of separating those emotions from the normal progression of the grieving process. It seems crazy to be in the depths of such an inescapably deep pit of depression over an ex that I hadn’t even seen in the 7 years before he died. I’m on the edge of falling apart all the time and I don’t know what to do.

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