Comments on: How to Honor a Loved One Who Has Died http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/how-to-honor-a-loved-one-who-has-died/ Tue, 16 Mar 2010 23:06:23 -0800 hourly 1 By: Diana Doyle http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/how-to-honor-a-loved-one-who-has-died/comment-page-1/#comment-498 Diana Doyle Wed, 15 Oct 2008 18:18:07 +0000 http://test.opentohope.com/?p=1021#comment-498 Dear Sameena, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. It must be a sad time for your family. It is wonderful that you are searching for a way to help your mother, she is lucky to have you! We had some special friends buy a star for our daughter Savannah from the International Star Registry. It is named in her honor and is something I treasure. I feel she is always shining down on us from the heavens. I know of a mom who had a piece of clothing made into a teddy bear that now sits on her bed, she finds that comforting. Or, maybe you could buy her a beautiful locket and place a photo of your brother inside it for her to wear over her heart. I also think a special candle is very healing as you can light it on special occasions. Other obvious ones are photo frames, scrapbooking or planting a special garden in his honor where your mom can spend some quiet time. You could also write all of your special memories of your brother in a beautiful book and give it to your mother. Now, I wish I had of asked all my friends and family to write just one memory about Savannah that would make me smile, something that I could take out and read whenever I wanted. I hope you can find something special Sameena. Just the fact that you have been searching and are obviously a great support to your mom is a huge gift in itself. I wish you good days ahead. Diana Doyle Dear Sameena,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. It must be a sad time for your family. It is wonderful that you are searching for a way to help your mother, she is lucky to have you!

We had some special friends buy a star for our daughter Savannah from the International Star Registry. It is named in her honor and is something I treasure. I feel she is always shining down on us from the heavens.

I know of a mom who had a piece of clothing made into a teddy bear that now sits on her bed, she finds that comforting. Or, maybe you could buy her a beautiful locket and place a photo of your brother inside it for her to wear over her heart. I also think a special candle is very healing as you can light it on special occasions. Other obvious ones are photo frames, scrapbooking or planting a special garden in his honor where your mom can spend some quiet time. You could also write all of your special memories of your brother in a beautiful book and give it to your mother. Now, I wish I had of asked all my friends and family to write just one memory about Savannah that would make me smile, something that I could take out and read whenever I wanted.
I hope you can find something special Sameena. Just the fact that you have been searching and are obviously a great support to your mom is a huge gift in itself. I wish you good days ahead. Diana Doyle

]]> By: vicki frost http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/how-to-honor-a-loved-one-who-has-died/comment-page-1/#comment-497 vicki frost Sun, 12 Oct 2008 05:30:22 +0000 http://test.opentohope.com/?p=1021#comment-497 Dear Dee, I have a mother a sister and a beautiful daughter and I also have that perfect life you talked about. Until about a month ago the thought of loosing any one of them had never entered my mind. It is something that I have given alot of thought to lately and you have helped me see whats important in life. I loved the article and look forward to the next one and wish you all the best with the book. Love Vicki Dear Dee,
I have a mother a sister and a beautiful daughter and I also have that perfect life you talked about. Until about a month ago the thought of loosing any one of them had never entered my mind. It is something that I have given alot of thought to lately and you have helped me see whats important in life. I loved the article and look forward to the next one and wish you all the best with the book.
Love Vicki

]]> By: sameena Lopez http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/how-to-honor-a-loved-one-who-has-died/comment-page-1/#comment-494 sameena Lopez Thu, 09 Oct 2008 22:03:28 +0000 http://test.opentohope.com/?p=1021#comment-494 Hello - I have enjoyed reading your article. I am looking for ideas to help my mom. My older brother was murdered and buried in foreign country as a JOhn Doe. We will eventually have him exhumed and have services- its just alot of red tape. I am looking for a way to help my mom grieve by honoring him in some way. I like the quilt idea but I dont know if my mom has any of his clothes. Do you suggest anything else? I admire your great spirit Hello – I have enjoyed reading your article. I am looking for ideas to help my mom. My older brother was murdered and buried in foreign country as a JOhn Doe. We will eventually have him exhumed and have services- its just alot of red tape. I am looking for a way to help my mom grieve by honoring him in some way. I like the quilt idea but I dont know if my mom has any of his clothes. Do you suggest anything else? I admire your great spirit

]]> By: Sally Shorter http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/how-to-honor-a-loved-one-who-has-died/comment-page-1/#comment-483 Sally Shorter Wed, 01 Oct 2008 06:12:17 +0000 http://test.opentohope.com/?p=1021#comment-483 Hi Dee, Have just read your wonderful words of wisdom which will help so many people who have sufferd some type of traumatic epxerience throughout their lives. I'm so proud of you for expressing your feelings to all who need it most and especially finding a way to do it. You have always been such an inspiration to so many people in your life, one who never gives up trying. Your will never ceases to amaze me with your great strength and abundance of witty happiness. Yes I have grown up with you and your wonderful family all who would be so proud of you at this moment and always. You are probably one of very few people in this world who is brave enough to help not only yourself but other peopel too. No doubt all the people who read your site will gain a way to help themselves and feel that little bit happier. Looking forward to reading your next column and especially to hearing when your NEW BOOK will be on the shelves ready to read. Love Always Your Friend Salxxxxxxxxx Hi Dee,
Have just read your wonderful words of wisdom which will help so many people who have sufferd some type of traumatic epxerience throughout their lives. I’m so proud of you for expressing your feelings to all who need it most and especially finding a way to do it. You have always been such an inspiration to so many people in your life, one who never gives up trying. Your will never ceases to amaze me with your great strength and abundance of witty happiness. Yes I have grown up with you and your wonderful family all who would be so proud of you at this moment and always. You are probably one of very few people in this world who is brave enough to help not only yourself but other peopel too. No doubt all the people who read your site will gain a way to help themselves and feel that little bit happier. Looking forward to reading your next column and especially to hearing when your NEW BOOK will be on the shelves ready to read.
Love Always Your Friend Salxxxxxxxxx

]]> By: Cari http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/how-to-honor-a-loved-one-who-has-died/comment-page-1/#comment-480 Cari Mon, 29 Sep 2008 14:42:32 +0000 http://test.opentohope.com/?p=1021#comment-480 Dee, Renee forwarded your email on to me and I just read your article. It is hopeful and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story. I lost my mom when I was 15 and buy a rose on her birthday and the day I lost her to honor her and spend time reflecting on her life. It is a healing experience. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability, I'm looking forward to your book. Dee,
Renee forwarded your email on to me and I just read your article. It is hopeful and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story. I lost my mom when I was 15 and buy a rose on her birthday and the day I lost her to honor her and spend time reflecting on her life. It is a healing experience. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability, I’m looking forward to your book.

]]> By: Julie Kelly http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/how-to-honor-a-loved-one-who-has-died/comment-page-1/#comment-479 Julie Kelly Sun, 28 Sep 2008 05:45:33 +0000 http://test.opentohope.com/?p=1021#comment-479 Diana, I have known you all my life and you never cease to amaze me what a wonderful person you are. It is so like you to want to help other people in their own grief. You have had to deal with so much loss in such a short span of time. I hope many people read this site and find some comfort and inspiration in your words. Your Mum, Tarnia and Savannah would all be very proud of you. I can't wait to see your book published as I know it will be brilliant. Lots of Love Julie Kelly Diana,

I have known you all my life and you never cease to amaze me what a wonderful person you are. It is so like you to want to help other people in their own grief. You have had to deal with so much loss in such a short span of time. I hope many people read this site and find some comfort and inspiration in your words. Your Mum, Tarnia and Savannah would all be very proud of you. I can’t wait to see your book published as I know it will be brilliant.

Lots of Love
Julie Kelly

]]> By: Jackie Simmons http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/how-to-honor-a-loved-one-who-has-died/comment-page-1/#comment-478 Jackie Simmons Fri, 26 Sep 2008 23:56:04 +0000 http://test.opentohope.com/?p=1021#comment-478 hello my beautiful friend; Those wonderful words inspire us all to live life to the fullest and aspire to dance on tables no matter what age we are. Savannah has taught us all that life is a gift and we must cherish those who are special in our lives. You truly are the most giving person I have ever met and just the thought of you brings a smile to my face. I am so glad you have finally got the opportunity to spread your wisdom and strength to others, it has always been your dream to help others. Continue to be you. hello my beautiful friend;

Those wonderful words inspire us all to live life to the fullest and aspire to dance on tables no matter what age we are.

Savannah has taught us all that life is a gift and we must cherish those who are special in our lives. You truly are the most giving person I have ever met and just the thought of you brings a smile to my face.

I am so glad you have finally got the opportunity to spread your wisdom and strength to others, it has always been your dream to help others.

Continue to be you.

]]> By: Diane Cunningham http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/how-to-honor-a-loved-one-who-has-died/comment-page-1/#comment-477 Diane Cunningham Fri, 26 Sep 2008 11:00:45 +0000 http://test.opentohope.com/?p=1021#comment-477 Dear Diana, I was feeling so shit tonight, read your article above and it brought it all home to me love. Just what I needed. What you've written is fantastic and so heartfelt and I am so proud of you my special friend. Don't see much of you these days, though I'm sure I will see you soon, but you are in my thoughts and I am so happy to see your persistence and soul searching is rewarding you in other ways and helping others who need help! Keep up the great work love! Lots of love Diane and the boys. xxxx Dear Diana,

I was feeling so shit tonight, read your article above and it brought it all home to me love. Just what I needed. What you’ve written is fantastic and so heartfelt and I am so proud of you my special friend. Don’t see much of you these days, though I’m sure I will see you soon, but you are in my thoughts and I am so happy to see your persistence and soul searching is rewarding you in other ways and helping others who need help!

Keep up the great work love!

Lots of love
Diane and the boys.
xxxx

]]> By: Marlene Bustos Cacnio http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/how-to-honor-a-loved-one-who-has-died/comment-page-1/#comment-476 Marlene Bustos Cacnio Thu, 25 Sep 2008 20:52:32 +0000 http://test.opentohope.com/?p=1021#comment-476 Diana, Very well explained with simplicity and truthfullness. yes, we may have lost our loved ones but with God's creation they lingers within us everyday. Thanks for that wonderful article. Marlene I always remember Savannah when I see butterfly. Diana,
Very well explained with simplicity and truthfullness. yes, we may have lost our loved ones but with God’s creation they lingers within us everyday. Thanks for that wonderful article.

Marlene

I always remember Savannah when I see butterfly.

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