Comments on: Surviving the Holidays After the Death of a Child http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/surviving-the-holidays/ Fri, 12 Mar 2010 16:08:51 -0800 hourly 1 By: Alice J. Wisler http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/surviving-the-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-1609 Alice J. Wisler Mon, 04 Jan 2010 17:28:32 +0000 http://opentohopedeathofachild.com/?p=458#comment-1609 Sue, the first years after the death of a child is having to hear the worst possible music without any respite. The sounds are continual and there is no off button. In time, we do learn to cope and handle our new lives. It's such a blessing to have this site so that we can share with others who understand us. Weep boldly as you miss your sweet Danielle. Sue, the first years after the death of a child is having to hear the worst possible music without any respite. The sounds are continual and there is no off button. In time, we do learn to cope and handle our new lives. It’s such a blessing to have this site so that we can share with others who understand us. Weep boldly as you miss your sweet Danielle.

]]> By: Sue http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/surviving-the-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-1579 Sue Wed, 23 Dec 2009 02:42:44 +0000 http://opentohopedeathofachild.com/?p=458#comment-1579 I understand totally.My Danielle passed in 04 as well. The pain is fresh today as it was the day she left us. I too wonder will I ever stop crying all the time. I miss her soo..... I understand totally.My Danielle passed in 04 as well. The pain is fresh today as it was the day she left us. I too wonder will I ever stop crying all the time. I miss her soo…..

]]> By: Alice J. WIsler http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/surviving-the-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-1572 Alice J. WIsler Mon, 21 Dec 2009 18:14:41 +0000 http://opentohopedeathofachild.com/?p=458#comment-1572 Corinne, I wept as I read your words. I am so sorry for your continual pain. I will email you soon. Alice Corinne,

I wept as I read your words. I am so sorry for your continual pain. I will email you soon.

Alice

]]> By: Corinne Ruiz http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/surviving-the-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-1566 Corinne Ruiz Sun, 20 Dec 2009 06:56:42 +0000 http://opentohopedeathofachild.com/?p=458#comment-1566 Alice, my 14 year old daughter Olivia, died April 22, 2004. Yes, it has been five years but I find the holidays still very painful. My son became addicted to heroin after the death of his sister. He is now serving one year; so I feel as though I have lost both of my children. I woke up this morning and the tears just started flowing. I felt that ugly feeling in my stomach. I felt so lost, wondering if anything in my life will ever be okay. This year my husband's family would like us to travel and join them for Christmas. My heart is not into it. Maybe if my son were not on drugs, in jail and home with me, it would be able to. I did vist with my son today and it just hurts so much knowing where he is. When our visit ends, I hug him and don't want to let go. I come home and go into his bedroom, then I go into Olivia's bedroom and I cannot believe this is real. Just not sure what to do. I know it's one day at a time. Thank you for taking the time to read this. Corinne, Olivia and Manuel's mom Alice, my 14 year old daughter Olivia, died April 22, 2004. Yes, it has been five years but I find the holidays still very painful. My son became addicted to heroin after the death of his sister. He is now serving one year; so I feel as though I have lost both of my children. I woke up this morning and the tears just started flowing. I felt that ugly feeling in my stomach. I felt so lost, wondering if anything in my life will ever be okay. This year my husband’s family would like us to travel and join them for Christmas. My heart is not into it. Maybe if my son were not on drugs, in jail and home with me, it would be able to. I did vist with my son today and it just hurts so much knowing where he is. When our visit ends, I hug him and don’t want to let go. I come home and go into his bedroom, then I go into Olivia’s bedroom and I cannot believe this is real.

Just not sure what to do. I know it’s one day at a time.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Corinne,
Olivia and Manuel’s mom

]]> By: Alice J. Wisler http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/surviving-the-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-1489 Alice J. Wisler Wed, 02 Dec 2009 18:15:06 +0000 http://opentohopedeathofachild.com/?p=458#comment-1489 Beth, I know your heart is broken, and I hate that you and your parents have to experience the loss of your brother. Surround yourselves with those who loved him. Sending lots of hugs your way. Alice Beth,

I know your heart is broken, and I hate that you and your parents have to experience the loss of your brother.

Surround yourselves with those who loved him.

Sending lots of hugs your way.
Alice

]]> By: Beth Heaney http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/surviving-the-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-1478 Beth Heaney Tue, 01 Dec 2009 13:14:53 +0000 http://opentohopedeathofachild.com/?p=458#comment-1478 Alice, thanks for this article. I sent it to my mom and dad. We lost my brother this year. Alice, thanks for this article. I sent it to my mom and dad. We lost my brother this year.

]]> By: Alice J. Wisler http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/surviving-the-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-1435 Alice J. Wisler Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:06:46 +0000 http://opentohopedeathofachild.com/?p=458#comment-1435 Thanks, Lance. Your blog is meaningful. Thanks, Lance. Your blog is meaningful.

]]> By: Lance Boldt http://opentohope.com/dealing-with-loss/death-of-a-child/surviving-the-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-1434 Lance Boldt Mon, 23 Nov 2009 04:12:45 +0000 http://opentohopedeathofachild.com/?p=458#comment-1434 These are great tips. I'll be sharing them in our grief support meeting tomorrow. Thanks for wharing and I wish you the best this holiday season. Here's a link to some of my thoughts from last year and what helped our family after losing our sons to cancer. http://nutsandboldts.typepad.com/chromosomes_cancer_kids/2009/11/the-holidays-after-the-death-of-a-child.html These are great tips. I’ll be sharing them in our grief support meeting tomorrow.

Thanks for wharing and I wish you the best this holiday season.

Here’s a link to some of my thoughts from last year and what helped our family after losing our sons to cancer.

http://nutsandboldts.typepad.com/chromosomes_cancer_kids/2009/11/the-holidays-after-the-death-of-a-child.html

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