My Daughter and Her Boyfried Were Run Over and Killed on the Highway October 7, 2007
October 29, 2007 by The Grief Blog
Filed under Blog, Dealing with Grief, Death and Dying, Death of a Child, Q&A
My 18 year old daughter (Elyse) and her 20 year old boy friend (Tyler) were run over and killed on the highway. Their car broke down and they got out of their car to get help and were run over on October 7, 2007 both were killed at the accident site. We (both families) decided to bury them together, side by side, so they are now together forever. My heart aches, and I don’t know how I will ever live through this. If it were not for my husband, son, and grandson, I would not be able to carry on. I miss Elyse so much, her smile, her smel l, talking with her, she was so sweet, never had an unkind word for anyone. Her room sits just as she left it. I keep asking why this has happened, sometimes I think I will wake up from this nightmare and everything will be ok. I cry when I get up in the morning and cry when I go to bed at night.
Libby Cannon
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October 25, 2007 - An Adopted Child Losing Her Sibling: Kristy Mueller
October 25, 2007 by The Grief Blog
Filed under Q&A, Radio Show, Selected Guest Quotations
OCTOBER 25, 2007 - AN ADOPTED CHILD LOSING HER SIBLING: KRISTY MUELLER. In 1995, Kristy Mueller’s brother, Keith Konopasek, a police officer in Oakland, California, was murdered in the line of duty. A short time later, Kristy, along with the parents who adopted her, joined the South Bay, Los Angeles chapter of The Compassionate Friends. Kristy went on to start a sibling group, which she facilitated for five years. A former national board member, Kristy is a speaker and workshop presenter for The Compassionate Friends. Read more
My Husband Was Murdered on October 8th
October 25, 2007 by The Grief Blog
Filed under Blog, Dealing with Grief, Death and Dying, Death of a Spouse, Q&A
On Oct 8th 2007, the father of my two boys was murdered. I had no other boyfreinds before him and he was all I knew for the 12 yrs we were together. We had our share of problems as he struggled with drug use, which led to his eventual death. Yet despite of our problems I we loved each other unconditionally, now that he is gone I’m hurting so much that I find it hard to function sometimes, Read more
Our heart goes out to all those impacted by the California wildfires - Dr. Heidi
October 25, 2007 by The Grief Blog
Filed under Blog, Dealing with Grief, Q&A
The losses that have taken place as a result of the California wildfires undermine a person’s need to see the world as a safe & predictable place. It is very traumatic to stand helplessly by and watch ones community, neigborhood, and in many cases one’s home become ravaged and destroyed by wildfires.
-One’s home represents a place of comfort, security, memories and love. Therefore, this loss can be devastating. Although homes can be rebuilt their are many things that can never be replaced such as; family photos, a special gift, the family pet, and the many other things in our homes that have personal and sentimental value. Read more
OCTOBER 25, 2007 - AN ADOPTED CHILD LOSING HER SIBLING: KRISTY MUELLER
October 25, 2007 by The Grief Blog
Filed under Past Show Transcripts, Q&A
OCTOBER 25, 2007 - AN ADOPTED CHILD LOSING HER SIBLING: KRISTY MUELLER. In
1995, Kristy Mueller’s brother, Keith Konopasek, a police officer in
Oakland, California, was murdered in the line of duty. A short time later,
Kristy, along with the parents who adopted her, joined the South Bay, Los
Angeles chapter of The Compassionate Friends. Kristy went on to start a
sibling group, which she facilitated for five years. A former national
board member, Kristy is a speaker and workshop presenter for The
Compassionate Friends. Read more
A Remembrance of Our Daughter Who Died in Ghana, West Africa
October 23, 2007 by The Grief Blog
Filed under Birthday Remembrances, Blog, Dealing with Grief, Death and Dying, Death of a Child, Q&A
Our daughter would have turned 21 10/23/86 but instead she was killed in a 19 passenger van accident ( four other people died)last November 20, 2006 in Ghana, West Africa where she was participating in her Junior year abroad (E.O.P.) through University of California at Santa Cruz.
Tuesday night, almost a full moon, and clear skies ahead, about 25 of her friends, family and community will hike up to a redwood tree we planted in her honor, on a ridge in a public hiking state park. We’re going to share food, toasts and honor our daughter who’s death has affected us all so deeply and even though almost a year has passed, our grief remains ever present. But, this is a beginning…
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A Eulogy for My Family, Killed in a Car Crash in Croatia
October 22, 2007 by The Grief Blog
Filed under Blog, Dealing with Grief, Death and Dying, Death of a Child, Death of a Spouse, Q&A
My family were killed in a car crash in Croatia. My husband, Matthew, was 40; and our daughter, Tegan, was 4. The driver of the car, our friend, - Sinisa - was in his 30’s and about to be married in a few weeks to Branka. They were driving in the early summer evening back from the coast to the city. Two men were racing their cars down to the coast and at speed crossed the double line around a blind corner. They forced Sinisa’s car off the road and into a cliff. Matthew, Tegan and Sinsia were killed on impact wit h the oncoming cars and their car exploded into flame. The racers sped away to saftey. But the life of Sinisa, Matthew and Tegan - as well as mine - ended at 5pm European time on 27 May 2006. Read more
Goodbye is Not Forever
October 22, 2007 by The Grief Blog
Filed under Blog, Grief Poems, Q&A
Our precious Angel
Up in Heaven smiling down
We cry for ourselves
Not for you
We know you’re in a better home
Than any we have ever known
That doesn’t mean we won’t be sad
We just want you as our own
We can almost hear you say, Read more
Jenise Writes to Debbie About the Loss of Her Son
October 21, 2007 by The Grief Blog
Filed under Blog, Dealing with Grief, Death and Dying, Death of a Child, Q&A
Dear Debbie
I personally understand your feelings. My son was 18 days away from turning 27. His life was full of up and downs mostly downs. He was born hearing impaired and learning disabled. We fought the system and my son graduated from high school even when one of his doctors said he would drop out. My Jimmey had problems with keeping a job even though he worked hard to please, there was always prejudice to deal with. My Jimmey would not lay down and quit he would find someway of making money the legal way. The day he died was December 18, 2006, he left the house to cut wood at his grandmothers, he returned before noon unloaded his truck, came inside and fixed his lunch. At the time I was and still am in bad health and must rest during the day. My son informed me that at a certain time he had to help his aunt carry in a washer. I told him when he left I was going to take a nap. I woke up at 5:00pm and my son wasn’t home. I stepped outside but I didn’t hear anything different than cows mowing, etc. At 9:00pm he still didn’t come home so I figured he had went to his girlfriends home in a nearby home. I didn’t have her phone number so I went to bed.
A Letter to Jodie by Susan who Lost Her Husband on September 18, 2007
October 21, 2007 by The Grief Blog
Filed under Blog, Dealing with Grief, Death and Dying, Death of a Spouse, Q&A
Dear Jodie,
I can relate to your grief. I just lost my husband on Sept 18, 2007, suddenly, to an unexpected illness-viral enciphilitis. He was also healthy prior. Now, I’m left with our very young daughters to raise. He was the world to us.He left behind a platoon of friends and family members that loved him so much. He was a caring, kind, selfless, father and husband. The shock of it all is incredible to me. One day we had a perfectly normal day, and next thing you know, he’s in a medically induced coma for next several weeks. No chance to say I love you again or even to say goodbye.
My 4 year old is just devastated and of course, troubled by his death. I am having a hard time talking about this with many people. And reading this blogsite is helping relate with other widows.
So, thank you all for listening. Susan
Dear Susan,
We are so sorry for your loss. We welcome you to the group of wonderful people who reach out with love to others who also have experienced such great and sudden loss. Reaching out to others seems to facilitate healing and we hope that is true for you. Read more
