Sometimes remembering comes at a cost. Since my husband died, remembering is the hardest thing for me. Most days, I can go about my business and not think that this is my real life. Some …

From the moment you become a parent there are two questions that become foremost in your mind: Where is my child and is he or she okay? E
ven when you are dealing with an infant …

The body is gone, but the love remains. This is the bottom line for so many of us.
We may miss the person’s physical presence, but more often it’s the person’s mind/soul/body presence which we long …

This life is so temporary. We don’t seem to get that most times. Over the last months, it has become so clear to me that we are not meant for this earth forever. We are …

I have had a lot of parents, new on this grief journey, ask me if the feelings of intense anger they feel over their child’s death is normal. My answer is yes, a resounding yes.
It …

Whether you’re widowed or not, love is a tricky business. It doesn’t matter if you’ve never been married, been messily married, or have gotten involuntarily unmarried (I think that’s a better term than “widowed,” don’t …

Question from a reader: Two months ago, my 21-year-old nephew, my sister’s only child, was killed in a car accident.  I was 19 when he was born.  I have feelings of love for him almost …

Father’s Day in 2007 was one of the real highlights of the relationship I had with my dad.  Mom had died in May, 2007. Dad was wearing out (he was 94), but hung on until …

I was in the garden yesterday planting flowers around your tree like I do every year. I plant marigolds, your father’s favorite flower.  He loves the strong yellow color and how they feel light and …

Last year, when the 30th anniversary of his death was coming up, I set out on a journey of healing…

I sat with my father for the last time on Thursday, the 18th of December, 2008. His condition was not much different from the past several days; he was sleeping and unresponsive. For so many …

When I was born
God gave me
The greatest gift of all
He gave me – my mother.
My mother’s love was
Unconditional.
Her love was
Sacrificial, but infinite.
Everyday I’m grateful
To my Lord
For his precious gift
A mother’s love.
Through her I learned
Faith, Hope …

Mother’s Day had been one of the most dreaded days of my life for a long time – until I learned that guilt can be overcome and forgiveness can take place after the death of …

I’ve always been adept at “compartmentalization” or, as it’s less euphemistically known, DENIAL.
I’ve read some wonderful books about the grieving process and its non-linear stages, most notably Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler’s On Grief and Grieving.  …

Every year on the morning of Mother’s Day, I cry.
On this special day, I’m greeted with a huge dimpled smile from our daughter Dempsey, who sneaks into our room, usually with a present she has …

With Mother’s Day quickly approaching (in the U.S.), my thoughts become more focused on my son, Connor, and all children who have died too soon.  Of course, Conner is always on my mind, but during this …