Mary Westra’s book, After the Murder of My Son, is available at Amazon.com.
Mary Westra
Mary Rondeau Westra grew up in Northeast Minneapolis. She graduated from Macalester College and taught French for eight years before becoming a stay-at-home mom. When her two daughters and son became teenagers, she went back to work, launching a 10-year career of fundraising for arts organizations. She retired from the Minneapolis Institute of Arts in 2002, shortly after the murder of her son, Peter. She became a Master Gardener and museum guide and started writing. Mary continues to be inspired by Peter. Over the years since his murder, she has reached out to other parents of children who have been murdered — writing them letters or picking up the phone. She stays in contact with a number of Peter's close friends from childhood and Middlebury College. And every year on July 8, she and her husband, and any family or friends who are present, wake up early and go down to their dock on the lake, sitting together to mark the hour that Peter lived after the attack in Atlantic City. Mary and her husband, Mark, live in White Bear Lake, Minn. They bike and hike together, watch birds, play golf, and Mary tends the garden; they spend time with their adult daughters, and Mary has begun to knit for her first grandchild, born in 2010.
After we lost our 21 year old son last March, Mary was one of the first to call me and offer herself – her friendship, her compassion, her encouragment and her own journey through this shadowland. Though nothing could possibly redeem the lost life of her son, Mary has found the goodness and hope that springs from honestly sharing the shocking pain and also the blessing of renewal that can come about in a family. Her book has offered me hope in our loss, as I read how the horror of a tragic moment
can transform an entire family over time.