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Posted on June 30, 2026 - by Judy Lipson

I reread the rabbi’s eulogy from my beloved sister Jane’s funeral. He said, “There is no satisfactory answer to understanding why bad things happen to good people. Not all questions have answers. Unanswered “whys” are part of life. The way to face tragedy is with love. Use the love we had for Jane to forgive ourselves.” Focusing on his words helped me knock down roadblocks to forgive myself.” Forgiveness for me was not a quick fix, magic bullet, instant gratification, but a long, arduous triathlon. I needed to program my heart and mind in sync to forgive myself and […]

The Loneliness of Grief: Why You Feel So Alone (And What Actually Helps)

Posted on June 29, 2026 - by Heidi Horsley

The loneliness of grief is one of the most universal and least talked-about parts of bereavement. Even surrounded by people, you can feel utterly alone. Here are 7 compassionate ways to navigate grief loneliness and slowly build connection through the hardest season.

BETWEEN TWO GRAVITIES

Posted on June 27, 2026 - by Dan Stern

Most mornings, the sun rises in grayscale, weighted between two gravities. I fasten the mask again— it’s thin, too thin— hoping it veils what flickers beneath. I’m tired of being praised for holding it together— as though silence is sainthood, as though endurance is free. I wonder, if the colors I see are the same as yours. Is my red the burn of a star too near, my blue a trench that swallows light? Are both tethered by forces I can’t unlearn, by concepts I have no words for? You see a calm ocean; I see depths […]

The Poem Was The Meaning

Posted on June 23, 2026 - by Dan Stern

After my son died, I did not lose the ability to speak. I could answer questions, describe what had happened, and walk someone through the sequence of events in a way that sounded complete. I could even say it plainly: I got a call from a stranger, three thousand miles away, telling me my son was dead. I sat in my office chair, frozen. That is not something I’ll forget. On the surface, nothing was wrong with my language. Words still worked for logistics—phone calls, explanations, the details people needed. I could confirm, clarify, repeat. But when it came to […]

Father’s Day After Loss: 8 Ways to Cope When the Holiday Hurts

Posted on June 21, 2026 - by Heidi Horsley

Father’s Day after loss can feel like a long, loud reminder of everything you no longer have. Whether you’re grieving your dad, your child, your partner, or another father figure, here are 8 compassionate, therapist-tested ways to cope with grief on Father’s Day, honor the man you loved, and find a quiet thread of hope on a tender day.

Grief Triggers: When a Song, Smell, or Phrase Knocks You Sideways

Posted on June 19, 2026 - by Heidi Horsley

Grief triggers are the unexpected reminders that knock you sideways months or years after a loss — a song on the radio, a familiar smell, a stranger’s phrase. Here’s why grief triggers happen, what to do when one ambushes you, and 8 ways to live alongside them.

Communing with the Dead

Posted on June 16, 2026 - by Sara Striefel

There is a phone booth in the middle of the desert in Joshua Tree. It was installed by Colin Campbell and Gail Lerner in honor of their two children, Ruby and Hart, who died in a 2019 car crash. It lives out there amid the tall cholla cacti and the wind that sweeps circles into the salt and sand. I have been thinking about this telephone lately, of how few spaces we have to offload our grief. In her book, Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss, Hope Edelman offers a handful of events that she believes have the potential to change […]

When Grief Leaves Words Unsaid

Posted on June 9, 2026 - by MilesDyson

There is a moment that comes for many people after loss. It often doesn’t happen at the funeral. It doesn’t happen during the casseroles or the sympathy cards. It comes later. Maybe it’s when you’re driving. Or folding laundry. Or lying awake at 2:17 a.m. And suddenly you think: “I didn’t say everything I meant to say.” Grief is not only about missing someone. It’s also about the unfinished sentences we carry. The “thank you” that never felt big enough. The “I forgive you” we thought we had more time to offer. The “I’m proud of you” that lived in […]

The Quiet Work of Healing After Loss

Posted on June 2, 2026 - by Ilana Estelle

Grief Changes You – Awareness Helps You to Rebuild Loss changes you. It’s natural to feel lonely and unsure when someone important is no longer there. When depression that follows loss is part of the picture, everything can feel heavier and harder to move through. For a long time, that weight can feel constant – like you’re moving through fog. Separation can also create a space you don’t recognize, but it can also help you see yourself without old patterns or expectations. That distance can feel uncomfortable at first, but it is often where something begins to shift. You start […]

Keeping Memories Fresh Despite the Passage of Time

Posted on May 26, 2026 - by Bob Baugher

It’s Spring and you find yourself watching people around you excitedly making plans for their upcoming summer vacations. Instead, what are you doing? You are thinking about how much you miss your loved one. How long has it been? Bereaved people are often asked this question. I ask it of you, “How long has it been?” Now answer this question: “How long does it feel like it’s been?” A common answer is, “On one hand it feels like yesterday. On the other, it feels like a long time ago.” Why do we experience our lives like this? How can something […]