Fred Colby
Fred Colby has served as a director, board member and consultant for nonprofit organizations in California and Colorado. After his wife, Theresa, died in 2015 Fred shifted his focus to writing and leadership roles to help his fellow widowers heal and re-engage with life. He co-founded the Pathways Hospice Men’s Grief Group and an online grief group. He resides in Ft. Collins, Colorado. For more information go to: www.fredcolby.com
Articles:
How to Help a Dying Spouse
How Can We Help a Dying Spouse? There are so many ways to help a dying spouse. When my wife, Theresa, was in the hospital, one incident made me realize that little things can make a difference. One day, a masseuse came to Theresa’s hospital room and offered to give her a massage. She accepted the offer, even though she wasn’t inclined towards massages. She really enjoyed it and felt much better. The next day the masseuse came in and made the same offer. My wife was not feeling up to it. The masseuse then turned to me and offered […]
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Where Am I in My Grieving Process?
“Where am I in my grieving process?” It’s a question most of us ask at some point, and it’s different for each of us. Possible Answers to ‘Where Am I in My Grieving Process?’ After the first six to 12 months, you might find yourself answering in one of these ways: I am still fully immersed in deep grieving! Crying every day, I miss her like hell, am angry at the world, feel desperately alone and have few if any friends or family I can talk to. I have finished the worst of my deep grieving. I am feeling better, […]
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Helping a Widower After the Loss
This article on helping a widower is excerpted from Widower to Widower, by Fred Colby. Purchase it on Amazon. Advice on Helping a Widower This portion of the book is meant for those of you who want to better understand or help someone who is about to or has recently lost his wife. Unless you are an experienced grief counselor, don’t give into your natural urges and start giving advice on how he should deal with his wife’s death. I found that others helped by letting me find my own solutions in my own way. Some helped me most by […]
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