I am in frequent communication, to a greater or lesser degree, with my teenage son who passed in a train accident at the end of 2007. The bridge that has been built between us, with the assistance of many others, has allowed enough clarity for a series of books to be written by my son, still 19 years old by earth years if he had remained. The first book is just now off the printing presses.
Now, this is a very personal experience and I am not trying to convince anyone of anything. I am just sharing, but understand that I have had many long and emotional exchanges with my son. On some level, had he remained on earth, he would have become a teacher, a very influential teacher in his generation, but he would have had to pass through three very difficult decades to reach that place.
He would have had to become almost as old as I am now before he could start to really make his contribution, but in the meantime he would need to walk a very lonely path and one I would have never wished for him even if it all worked out in the end. Galen would tell you that “it all works out in the end.”
Galen was given a choice to remain in his broken body and at super-conscious level he chose not to remain in his body as a quadriplegic, because he did break his neck in the accident. Many choose to remain in their bodies and serve and teach from that place. The actor Christopher Reeve is a perfect example — and a relevant example because Galen was an actor.
However, if Galen had remained in his body it would have only been about remaining, and thankfully he knew better than that. Nevertheless, he would be the first to tell you that had he been given the choice to remain in a viable body, even knowing he had many difficult years in front of him, he would have chosen to remain.
It is a message he brings forward often, that leaving one’s body ahead of schedule by an act of disrespect for the life and opportunity to learn and participate with earth is a decision that one will regret and have to spend a considerable amount of time and energy balancing.
Galen will now be teaching far ahead of schedule, not three of four decades from now.
So, now comes my dissonance…. I am so glad he is being given this opportunity to teach. I am so glad he does not need to pass through the pain I found out was in store for him. I am so glad he had the advantage his new dimension provided to move forward in his understandings in a very short period of time even by the non-linear standards by which time moves in his dimension.
I am both excited and happy for him, and yet I still grieve, which is a paradox I have touched on before. A parent is never griefless for the loss of a child, and Galen, age 16, was still a child. It creates a strange emotional dissonance for me and as I have said before, and I just have to be with it.
Kenneth Stoller 2011
Tags: signs and connections
My son Alex, an expert skiier, died in a skiing accident 16 months ago. A few months before he died, I got the telepathic message “Death is near.” This happened twice. I was a high school math and biology teacher and couldn’t grasp this.
When I saw Alex for the last time, 12 days before he died, I got the telepathic message, “You are over 18 and headed for death.” My older sister was having terrifying nightmares that she would recieve a phone call that there was a death in the family. My sister-in-law “knew” that something terrible was going to happen to Alex. We were all stunned and helpless.
After Alex’s death, I was very angry that I had this information, but was helpless to change anything.
Now I understand that these things happened to force me to accept that there is another dimension beyond earthly death and Alex is now in this dimension. His friends have had vivid dreams where he comes to them and tells them about heaven and the afterlife.
Even so, the pain of losing my beloved son is almost unbearable and I struggle with the sadness every day.
I believe that Galan is with Alex in the afterlife and I simply want to understand more. I want reassurance that Alex is in a place of love and light,
God Bless you.
No words to express, but opening light to your heart and all that surrounds you. I too had a glimpse at the other side before 3 major losses. It did not make sense then, but now I “see” how it gives me hope for myself and others now.
Healing thoughts your way. Another Susan
If we are open, we get helpful messages to prepare us for the shock of this great loss of losing a child. In 2005, two years before Galen passed, I had a dream where I saw all the stages of who he had been as a child pass before me – all these stages that were now gone. Of course, that is the natural order of things, but when I woke up it felt like someone had kicked me in the stomach. The loss I felt was so intense.
At the time I thought I had an attachment problem that I needed to get over lest I have a bigger issue when Galen went off to college. Only after he passed did I understand that even two years in advance I was being prepared.
After Galen had passed, I was allowed to remember, by my spirit or supra-consciousness (whatever you want to call it), that Galen’s spirit and my spirit had a full conversation about his leaving when he was 13 years old. He told me he was going to leave and I asked him if he wanted me to go with him, but he said no….this he had to do alone.
This conversation was hidden in my subconscious mind for three years. I assumed it took place when he was 13 because the Galen I was having the conversation with was his 13 year old version.
Perhaps, my memory of dream is a little out of the ordinary, but we all get these messages to a greater or lesser degree.
Life goes on, we go on… there is no death.