Soul and Grief Connection

    The soul and grief are deeply intertwined in many spiritual and philosophical traditions. It's only natural that after someone dies, those they leave behind will start to question and want to find meaning. Grief can lead individuals to ask questions, prompting them to think about the nature of existence and the soul's relationship with the material world. This journey, though difficult, can lead to profound insights and philosophical and spiritual growth, reshaping our understanding of life and death. BELIEVING IN…

    Poem Eases Sister’s Pain

    After our sister Jane's death, Margie and I, working long retail hours, did not communicate very often. Although we did not speak about our loss, Margie sent me a poem she'd written. She eloquently expressed her feelings in it. Who has broken into our lives? Who has spoken to our brokenness? Who keeps breaking into our presence? We don't have all the answers. We do have a lot of questions. We search in a world of bereft. Descent upon our…

    Writing through Grief

    I write about grief to help me through the 'grieving process' after the loss of my twin. I hope it helps you too. Grief is complex; it's based around individual experiences that people go through in response to loss. WRITING HELPS ME Writing helps me through the grieving process after the loss of my twin. It allows me to express how I feel, myself. The act of putting thoughts into words, I find is cathartic and healing. GRIEF IS NOT…

    Twins: Connected in Life and Death

    Twins: Connected in Life and Death As a twin myself, the death of actor and identical twin Jon Hager was especially fascinating. Jon and Jim Hager co-starred in the old TV show, "Hee-Haw," back in the 1970s. Jim died of a heart attack last year at just 66 years of age; Jon died at 67 on Jan. 9. It had been reported that Jon was depressed after his brother's death; the cause of Jon's death has not yet been determined.…

    Grief Can Transform the Future

    Grief can throw a spanner in the works, but it can also bring acceptance and closure positively, so long as we’re honest with ourselves. Our experiences can distort our perception of the past. It can feel like our memories are no longer reliable, as grief colours everything with its darkness. A SPANNER IN THE WORKS  A spanner may throw our past into the works because the past isn't always kind, so we alter how we perceive it. Loss can stop…

    A Spiritual and Healing Journey

    Spirituality and healing around grief is inevitably an individual and personal journey, with no two people sharing the same experiences. While my interest in spirituality started in childhood, my spiritual and healing journey started in earnest some 13+ years ago when I set up my website, The CP Diary, following my Cerebral Palsy diagnosis, aged 46. Personal reflections capture the essence of spirituality and healing. It also highlights the personal nature of spirituality and its potential to accommodate healing on…

    Am I a Sibling if my Siblings Have Died?

    Am I a Sibling if my Siblings Have Died? “I am the middle of three, and sadly, I lost both my sisters.” This is who I am. As a bereaved sibling, when asked the challenging question, “how many siblings do you have?”, I sometimes hold my breath. I struggle how to answer the question, and often reply, “it’s just me." Now, after decades of not revealing the truth, I understand that I am forever Judy, the middle sister. This is…

    Finding a Path Through Unresolved Grief

    The First Moments of Grief After landing at Miami International Airport on the evening of June 8th, 2005, I hopped in a friend's car and said, “Take me to William.”  Arriving at my brother’s home guarded by the City of Miami Police and covered in crime scene tape, I ran to the officer, begging, “Please, I’m his sister, I have to go to him.” The police officer shook his head no.  Touching the front gate, my fingers slid down the…

    Sharing the Experience of being a ‘Twinless Twin’

    Being a Twinless Twin As a twinless twin, the emotions I felt were mirrored in other twinless twins I met.  Just listening, for the first time, to other twins tell their story of loss and what it meant for them to lose their twin had an impact I will never forget. It was a huge gift in my life. It has been my personal experience that twin-loss was echoed in my other losses.  As I experienced the death of my mother,…

    Feeling the Loss of her Brothers

    Feeling the Loss of her Brothers On February 18, my brother George was having a procedure done. A stent was being put in his heart. I could feel my anxiety stirring. Just two years earlier, we said goodbye to our brother Gus. Pancreatic cancer came and robbed him of his health. It was painful. I remember when he leaned forward one day and told us, “I’m so glad I won’t have to go through this with one of you guys.”…