Even the Smallest Life Matters

The life of your child matters.

Your experience of holding them whether in your womb or in your arms matters.

All life matters.

No matter how fleeting or small—whether it was that magical moment of conception where you felt that swell of hope for new life, or that moment when you sensed the fluttering of butterfly wings in your belly as the song of a new heartbeat joined in the song of creation, or you birthed into this world the perfectly formed vessel that housed a precious spirit, that life mattered.

That soul has a purpose, a sacred purpose. And though you may not yet have the vast perspective required due to the limitations of a consciousness incarnated, a time will come when you can grasp the validity and beauty and magnificence of even the most fleeting, tiny existence.

A time will come when you will once again be reunited with the spirit of your child and you will see and know them to be the perfect holy, fully developed being that they are and always have been. Then you will see your reflection in them and know, too, that you are whole and vast and magnificent, even in your loss, even in your sense of imperfection.

You will know the beauty and magnificence of this endless cycle of life.

You will know the true value of every moment of every beating heartbeat that makes up this web of life.

And you will know that the separation you feel at the loss of your child is but an illusion because the power of that love is ultimate unity.

Shed the Tears

So go ahead, feel your grief, shed your tears. We honour the dead with our tears.

Give voice to this experience though ceremony and ritual to mark this journey you’ve shared with this being. Celebrate their mark on this world and on you. You have been blessed by their presence.

You are a carrier of the sacred cycle of life.

I see you and your pain.

I see you and your love.

And I see you and your beauty.

You hold within you the power of creation.

You are a gift.

Through you, you have brought the world a gift and I thank you and honour you for your sacred giveaway.”

Excerpt from the interview with Jessica Bamford, “Soul Journeys: A Shamanic Perspective,” in SACRED SADNESS: Insights on the Spiritual and Energetic Layers of Miscarriage, by Aura Rose. (2024).

Learn more about Aura at www.travelingalchemy.art.