Like hope, forgiveness is often a stepping stone forward. It can be a necessary part of truly accepting things that cannot be changed; for healing broken hearts and renewing spirit; and for allowing happiness into our lives again.
Forgive whenever you can. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Use forgiveness as a beacon to light a path to healing.
John Pete is a spiritual writer, founder of Daily Grief Quotes on Facebook, and was a Certified Grief Counselor for over 10-years . He has appeared on the "Grieving The Healing Heart" radio program and is published in the 2011 books, "Open To Hope, Inspirational Stories of Healing After Loss," "Grieving the Sudden Death of a Loved One" (2012, DVD), and Grief Diaries - Through the Eyes of Men (2016, book). John Pete is online at https://facebook.com/dailygriefquotes.
Open to Hope is an online community offering inspirational stories of loss, hope and recovery. We believe hope is the bridge between loss and recovery.
I am crushed my husband had a cardiac arrest at kidney dialysis, was given delayed cpr, taken to hospital, but had anoxic coma brain injury. two weeks the hospital stabilized him, but they slipped him off life support against my wishes(not long enough to wait-comas can take longer) they got approval from my stepdaughter, and now I am so angery, I need my husband, I love him. I would have waited for him to wake. he was so close to getting his kidney transplant. I miss you my love. how can a hospital take someone when they know their wife loves them so much. i don’t know how to hardly go on with life. but i am really trying.
Teresa, I am very sorry for your loss of your beloved husband. It sounds like he fought hard and it’s incredibly difficult letting them go of loved ones at the end of their lives. And please know that you are not alone in feeling your devastation and anger and wondering how to go on. It helps a lot to build strong support around you and perhaps you can also attend a grief support program. These are commonly located through local hospitals, hospices and churches. *Support groups are made up of other people who have also lost loved ones and can support one another with that deeper level of understanding and compassion.
It’s true that forgiveness can help us to move forward after a loss, but that is just a part of it. We must also allow ourselves to fully grieve our losses in order to gradually move beyond painful grief to a place of deeper acceptance and sustained healing. Again, please accept my heartfelt condolences for your loss of your precious husband. Open To Hope has long been a great place for grief support and resources, and there are also grief peer support groups on Facebook (and elsewhere) that you may find helpful. Kind Regards, John Pete