By Stanley Popovich —

Some people have a difficult time managing loneliness after a death of a loved one.  Here is a short list of techniques that a person can use to help deal with loneliness.

First, find an activity that you enjoy and where you can meet a lot of people. For instance, join a group activity such as a volleyball club, women’s club, or crafts class. Doing something that you enjoy increases your chances of making friends while you participate.

Second, spend time with animals. If you don’t own a pet, then volunteer at a local animal shelter.  Spending time with an animal tends to make us feel better and reduce stress.

Third, help others. There are many people who could benefit from your time and talents. At the same time, helping others can give you a source of pride, help you feel better about yourself, and can provide long lasting friendships.

Finally, challenge your negative thinking with positive statements and realistic thinking. When encountering thoughts that make your lonely or depressed, challenge those thoughts. For example, some people may think that if they are alone at the present time, then they will always be alone. Challenge that thought — and then do something that makes it less likely that you’ll be alone.

The important thing is to do something constructive. Sitting around and doing nothing will not make things any better whether it is dealing with the fear of being alone or something else. Once you feel strong enough on your grief journey, go out and do something that you like to do.

Stan Popovich is the author of A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/