My daughter, Katie Brant, was my hero.
She was given an overwhelming challenge which she met valiantly, fearlessly and always with a greater good in mind. I witnessed Katie’s bravery early on when she marched down the hallway of Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia toward the gurney for her first brain surgery. She was only 18 years old. As Katie waved goodbye, she told us not to worry because “God wasn’t done with her yet.” Katie was self-possessed, a character strength she consistently exhibited during the many years of daunting treatments, especially after she heard more bad news about her cancer. “We’ll manage it.”
Katie was very intelligent. During the early days of her diagnosis and treatments, while an undergraduate at The University of Pennsylvania, she enrolled in a medical school class to research her own brain tumor. In the bibliography of her textbook, she saw a doctor cited who specialized in her type of tumor: anaplastic astrocytoma. Days later, she boarded a train to New York to meet him.
Of course, he became her oncologist because everybody always said yes to Katie; she was engaging, spirited, and charming. She was also beautiful and light hearted, especially when she kidded me about my “Deep Thoughts,” then laughed hysterically when I gave her another one.
Katie faced Sisyphean challenges again and again after being diagnosed with a brain tumor the size of a fist, a disease which turned chronic and required more and more treatments. Up she pushed the boulder, then back down it rolled month after month, year after year.
Sometimes her doctors reported wonderful news. “Good MRI, Katie, we think we got the tumor.” Six months later, the news turned bad. “Your last MRI shows the tumor is back, Katie; we recommend more surgery.” In all, Katie had five brain surgeries, two stem-cell transplants, and a life-time’s dose of chemotherapy, radiation therapy and several experimental therapies. She agreed to undergo the experimental ones not because she believed they would help her but because she felt the data might help young children with brain tumors.
Katie’s attitude was so much about “the big picture.” During the ten years she battled her cancer, she never questioned “why me?” She believed little children and their families had it far worse. Her optimism and confidence had no room for insecurity and nothing ever stopped her from consciously exploring what was really important to her life’s purpose.
Even during her treatments, she always thought about how she could help others which led her to researching cause-related marketing (this links a charity to a corporate sponsor). She was excited about this idea and pitched it at the new position she just landed with Time, Inc. Her passion and belief in putting the two ideas together soon earned Katie the title, “Cause-Related Marketing Specialist.” Katie was a true pioneer in this endeavor and her promotion paved the way to land her dream job as National Director of Corporate Marketing for UNICEF.
But when Katie’s health deteriorated and she couldn’t manage by herself anymore, she returned home with her dad and me and established her own non-profit foundation, Katie’s Kids for the Cure. Many days, she worked long hours from her bed, too sick and exhausted to be walking around. Few people even knew because Katie wasn’t given to having everyone else feel bad because of her plight.
Katie was the sweetest, most loving and confident woman I’ve ever known. She helped anyone who needed her. She was deeply loved by absolutely everyone who knew her, especially me.
Yes, my daughter Katie was my hero. She lived the life of a modern day saint and I suspect that one day she will have that title and not just in her mother’s heart but in the world’s heart, too.
Please visit www.WhenEveryDayMatters.com to learn more about Katie and read an excerpt from the book of the same title.
Tags: grief, hope
Hey MJ:
A wonderful tribute to Katie. Thank you for letting us get to know your amazing daughter.
I can imagine how proud you must be of Katie and so should you. I cannot help but admire her great courage in the face of the odds stacked agaisnt her. Her determination and the spirit to give back by starting a foundation speaks volumes of her.
If only we all could learn to turn such adversities into an opporutnity by not only learning to live with it but trying to do something about it and making a huge difference in that process.
She is not only your hero but a hero to all of us. Her story and her actions are really inspiring, she has inspired me.
Dear Dave and Sanjay,
Thank you for commenting. I really appreciate your kindness. Katie lived large when she lived in this world and continues to do so. She was enormous fun alongside of her courage. She loved St. Patrick’s Day which is upon us soon. We traveled to Ireland after Katie’s stem cell treatment. I wanted to take a bus but she said with a wink, “Oh no, Mom, we’re renting a car and you better behave.” Well, we rented a car anyway but nobody behaves when they visit Ireland!
It’s not the same for me, the mother, but I accept the bigger picture that we all must keep our eyes on if we wish to continue doing something of value in our short time here. I wish to do that and so I spread Katie’s message of valor to all of the amazing people here at Open to Hope. We need it. We need one another. We need to make Every Day Matter.
Mary Jane, I just read about your wonderful angel, Katie. What a remarkable young woman she was, and so selfless in her handling of her cancer. Having watched my husband and other people I loved struggle and ultimately die from cancer I can appreciate to some degree the loss you must feel. Gold bless you for your love and support of Katie. God picked you to be her mother because He knew that you, like his own Mother, would be the spiritual help Katie would need.
Dear Lorraine,
How kind of you to say hello and remember my love for Katie. Yes, Katie was very selfless and always looked out for others, especially children.
After her first of five surgeries she said how brave the little ones were especially when one little girl who had CF tapped her on the knee and told Katie, “You are going to be just fine.”
I am also most sorry for the loss you have lived with in your husband. He was a lucky man having such a fun wife as yourself and I was fortunate to have known you during our days of innocence.