i lost my son patrick 7 months ago .he was 8 years old .he died in an abandon house fire . he died september 17,2010 . that was the worsed day of my life . ive been trying to deal with his death but it seems like my crying everyday never stops .
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Dear Apryl,
I am so sorry. I wish I could tell you the crying will stop but from my own experience of losing a son I know it does not. However I know that I have some happy moments from memories of my son or other things happening in my life. It’s hard, but I just need to allow myself to enjoy those moments, because I know my son would not want me to be unhappy. My son died almost 6 months ago – he was 17. Sending you a hug today.
Regina
Apryl and Regina,
I too lost my son James, at the age of 22 on July 31, 2009. He died in my arms after a difficult battle against leukemia. It is a day forever etched upon my soul. I don’t cry every day as I did at first. It’s almost like a virus that keeps coming back. I can be perfectly ok, going through my day and suddenly I get hit with a wave of grief and sorrow that cannot be explained. Sometimes, I have to run out of a store, or pull over to the side of the road, just to try to pull myself together. As the two year anniversary of my son’s passing draws near, I am resigned to the fact that I will always have this grief. I am blessed, in that I have a lot of family and friends who support me and count on me. It gets me through each and every day, knowing that some way, some how, I can still make a difference in someone’s life. I need to know that there is a reason for me to continue my life on this earth. That has been my saving grace. I have also learned that you must allow yourself to grieve, in whatever form that may take for you. If you need or want to cry, then let it happen. Don’t push it away, it is totally natural. You are hurting and you deserve to grieve, so give yourself that permission. I send you both big hugs, lots of love and wishes that one day, we might all find some level of peace in our lives which will enable us to carry on, as our children would have wished.