On June 27, 2019, our cherished and deeply loved son and brother, Patrick Michael Green, was ripped away from us in a sudden accident. The shock was indescribable; the pain was even worse. Searing, suffocating, breathtaking pain. How could this be real? Nothing can prepare you for a loss like this.
Our hearts instantly shattered. The light around us immediately dimmed. Our close family of five was changed forever.
Nothing Can Prepare You
After being given the utterly life-altering news, I fell to the floor and kept shaking my head no and repeating the words, “I can’t.” It’s a moment I’ll never forget, but at the same time, it all feels like a blur.
Nothing can prepare you. It’s true; you never think it will happen to you and your family. You know it happens to people; it may have happened to someone you know.
You just never want to be that someone. However, at some point in our lives, we will all be that someone because we know that death is a part of life. When you love a person with every part of you, you are never ready to lose them. It will never be the right time. Ever.
To Love is to Grieve
To love deeply is to lose deeply. When our love for someone is of the deepest vibration, and then we lose them, we feel the pain in every part of our being. It floods our body because the love is so intense.
This unending love is the anchor that maintains the connection to our loved one beyond this physical life.
To cope with my pain I keep returning to my immeasurable love for Patrick; I know my healing lives in this space of love. The extent and depth of my love is what rips my heart into pieces; it also mends its shredded edges.
I ask you to consider this thought: your love for your loved one who has died is greater than your loss and the force of your grief. Give the power to your love, not your grief.
I know this is a difficult concept to grasp because the weight of the loss feels as if it may break you. If you can, start ever so slowly to lift yourself up from your loss. It may take a few or many attempts; just try the best you can.
It’s going to feel heavy, and it’s going to be hard.
Love is fierce. It has an energy, a currency, and a vibration. It doesn’t require the presence of a physical body to keep it alive. Love goes beyond the physical world.
Envision your love as the lifeline to the one who you have lost. This bond is unbreakable; it is eternal. Open your mind and heart to the possibility of this lasting love connection.
This piece is excerpted from The Gifts From Losing You: Finding Meaning In Life While Living With Tragedy: Green, Sara: 9781736241301: Amazon.com: Books
