During the intense period after the loss of my favorite people, many questions ran through my mind. These are questions you might ask in your pain.

  • Will the tsunami of tears ever end?

  • Why do some people seem to skate through sorrow while I feel isolated and stuck?

  • If my brain is this foggy and I’m contemplating hibernating ’til springtime, am I going crazy? Or is this just what grief looks like?

  • Where are the people who came around in the early days? Do they even care about me? Or about her?

  • I wish I could have seen my mom’s sparkling blue eyes and said goodbye one last time. Where do I go with all the regrets?

  • What if I forget about her one day?

  • Will my heart always feel this shattered?

Psalms 30:11 “You have turned my mourning into joyful dancing.”

How about you?

What questions are running through your mind around the loss of your loved one? Are there things you wish you’d said or not said? What are your thoughts about regrets? These are some tough questions.

Whenever you have a little uninterrupted time, write about these or any other questions coming to mind.

Excerpted from Beth Marshall’s book, Uncrushed. Purchase it here.

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Beth Marshall

Beth Marshall is a freelance journalist, speaker and author of two grief-related books. Grief Survivor, 28 Steps toward Hope and Healing; and A Time to Heal, a grief journal. After losing three close people in her life, Beth felt crushed and overwhelmed by the intense emotions of grief. As she began to write about her "uniquely awesome" family members, Marshall eventually began to smile again- and even laugh. Her hope is to help others discover joy-filled life after loss.

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