My son, Cayden passed away on Feb. 3rd in his seventh month. My husband and I are dealing with it o.k, however we have not been able to talk to anyone about it or anything. We have alot of people to talk too but none that have experianced what we have. We live in Hamilton, Ont. There is help for people that have lost young children, or babies to s.i.d.s, but our son was not a s.i.d.s. case. He died from choking on his own spit in his sleep. What I need help with is finding a web site that deals with this sort of stuff. I have searched but the sites are of no help. I would like to find a site that shares other infant death survior’s stories and has a chat room or somewhere that you can get in touch with them to talk and share your stories. Thank you for your help.
Tags: grief, hope
Anne Hamilton
Anne Hamilton is an NYC-based freelance dramaturg and the Founder of Hamilton Dramaturgy, an international consultancy. She created Hamilton Dramaturgy’s TheatreNow!, where she hosts and produces an oral history podcast series of important theatre women working in America. Anne has dramaturged for Andrei Serban, Michael Mayer, Lynn Nottage, NYMF, Niegel Smith, Classic Stage Company, and the Great Plains Theatre Festival, among others. She is also an award-winning playwright. Her chapter, “Freelance Dramaturgs in the 21st Century: Journalists, Advocates, and Collaborators” appears in The Routledge Companion to Dramaturgy. She was a Bogliasco Foundation Fellow, won the Dean’s Prize for Dramaturgy at Columbia University School of the Arts, and holds dual citizenship in Italy and the United States. Anne lost her best friend Curtis in a head-on car accident in 1979, two weeks after his high school graduation. Her emotional life became frozen and she has spent the last thirty-two years exploring all areas of self-expression, particularly through stage plays, poetry, theatre, art, and music. She is currently developing her own chamber-play-with-dance entitled ANOTHER WHITE SHIRT, about the way that grief moves through the body.
I’m so sorry to learn of Cayden’s death. One thing I thought of was the MISS Foundation forums (www.MissFoundation.org) as a possible resource for your family to find other families. Their forums are very active and have lots of different categories for discussion. A large group of participants in the main board especially.
The other thing is that at KotaPress we host a section of articles about Child Death, but don’t have a topic specifically for “Infant Death” yet because we are still looking for contributors for that topic. If you wanted to post your story there along with a call for other parents to contact you, I’d be glad to do that. Just contact me via KotaPress.com
miracles to you,
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