Resolving an Abortion Decision
In addition to resolving grief and helping parents-to-be, the afterlife healing circle can be helpful in other difficult circumstances such as miscarriage, abortion, or suicide. Many of us regard such events as the end of a budding life, and even murder. What miscarriage and abortion really mean is delay. In both situations, the soul will opt not to return to a physical body, find another mother and father, or wait until the time is better for the woman who was pregnant.
The third option is what happened for a woman we will call Lori Dell. At age 19, Lori, an Oregon resident, became pregnant after her birth control failed. With sexual and other abuse in her past and needing to do much more work on her own healing, Lori was not emotionally equipped at that point to be a parent, and neither was her boyfriend. She did not want to give birth and put the child up for adoption, either. It was simply too much for her, too overwhelming.
Dream Wakes Her Up
Two months after she chose an abortion, Lori was at her boyfriend’s house for a weekend away from college. Asleep that Saturday night, she had a vivid dream. “I hesitate to even call it a dream, because there was something far more real about it,” she said.
In that dream, she gave birth to the child, who was a girl. “It’s like the air spoke and told me her name was Ashley.” A nurse tried to hand her the newborn, but she refused. “I wouldn’t touch her. I could not find it in myself to accept her,” Lori recalled. So the nurse gave the infant to her boyfriend, who sat down to hold the child. “He was in love with her instantly.”
The dream skipped forward, and the little girl was about 3 years old, a beautiful child with long blond curls. She and Lori were walking together down a street lined with little shops. They stopped to enter one of them. “Something in me just wanted to tell her how much I
loved her and how sorry I was,” Lori said. “But I couldn’t speak. It wouldn’t come out.
“She turned toward me and looked me right in the eye and said, ‘It’s okay, Mommy. I understand.’ She went on into the shop, and I woke up. I remember the incredible sense of joy and peace. I really wanted to hang onto that.”
Later that day, Lori learned that her boyfriend had experienced the first part of the dream the prior night. He even supplied her with exact details she had left out of her description of her dream to him.
Boyfriend’s Dream Echoes Hers
After her abortion, Lori struggled with confusion and mixed feelings. The dream message from the soul that wanted to be her daughter provided some help, but when Lori later became pregnant with the daughter she gave birth to, those painful feelings resurfaced, much to her surprise. When this daughter arrived in the physical world, Lori’s mother-in-law kept calling the newborn Grace, which was not the name she was given ultimately. But the word rang a bell for Lori, who regarded the child as a second chance to have a daughter, her “saving grace.”
In the shower one morning, it occurred to Lori that her daughter was the same soul as Ashley, whom she thought of at the time as her saving grace because even though it was unwanted, the pregnancy moved Lori to take stock of her life and do some work on herself. Once Lori made the connection between the two daughters, her mother-in-law never again referred to the child as Grace. That seemingly strange incident of a short-term name was this soul’s way of helping her mother to realize that she had come back to her and was now growing up.
Copyright © 2015 Candace L. Talmadge and Jana L. Simons from The Afterlife Healing Circle published by New Page Books, an imprint of Red Wheel/Weiser
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