With the publication of my son’s book less than two weeks away, the cat will be out of the bag, and it will be known that less than two weeks after his passing (in 2007), I was getting contact messages from him. Two years later, I started writing the book that he wanted to pen; therefore, I would say I have a rather unusual perspective on grief. And while I am a physician, I don’t claim to be anymore of an expert than anyone else. But it did provide for an experience that is worth sharing.
First and foremost, my grief was so intense I needed assistance to survive it and I have already written about several flower remedies and oxytocin, but I received a lot of love and light as well from multiple sources.
It is my hope that if Galen’s book becomes popular it will give me an opportunity to spread the word about how this benign hormone (not for use in pregnant women because it causes uterine contractions in a pregnant uterus) mitigates what I call pathological grief – grief so intense it takes on an uncontrollable obsessive quality. Many continue to suffer more than necessary because there really isn’t an effective way to get information out about an orphan therapy in our current medical paradigm. But that is for another discussion.
One would have thought that making contact with my son on the other-side would have been the most joyful, uplifting and life-reaffirming experience that was a personal affirmation that our consciousness continues on past the material body it once inhabited. Such an experience had the potential to change the extreme grief I was experiencing.
In fact, it did… it made it worse. I had joy when I heard those first words in semi-slumber at 5 o’clock in the morning 28 days after the train accident that was the catalyst for his passing. The joy lasted for 15 minutes, and then I sank back to sleep only to experience the first round of a release of grief so humongous that it shook my psyche to its core.
Sure, I understood intellectually what was being asked of me… I was clear on that. I was being asked to release years of grief in short order or I would not be able to communicate with my son. No surprise, grief interferes with communication across the dimensional divide. At the very time one needs to be griefless, one is grieful, an ironic complication to interdimensional communication. So, began an unusual personal journey I documented in such detail that my son decided I could document his sojourn in his new dimension, because he had a few things he really wanted to share. And so he did and more information is available on the book’s website: www.my-life-after-life.com.
However, back on earth, I can tell you a parent is never griefless about the loss of a child and that does not matter if the parent is on earth or that parent preceded the child in passing. The loss of a child before that child has had an opportunity to fulfill their dreams is not something one gets over (period).
What is possible is that one can shift and expand one’s perspective, and that was what I had to do and continue to do, because it is an ongoing process that won’t be complete until that day comes when I pass over myself.
That might seem like a paradox coming from someone who has had more conversations and emotional contact with his son than he would have ever had if he remained on earth. But the fact is the paradox is there and I just have to be with it.
Kenneth Stoller 2011
Tags: signs and connections
I am so sorry for your loss. I know the pain and heartache also. I lost my beautiful son Marty, January 19, 2010 at Moore Regional Hospital in Pinehurst, NC. The cardiothoracic surgeon told us it was a routine aortic valve replacement and he would be just fine, and he was the best to perform such a surgery. My son stayed in a coma for 14 days. We were given no answers or compassion for what we were facing. We will never have peace in our lives. We miss him terribly.
Those first words I heard from Galen 27 days after he passed were,”What age would you have preferred that I died?” There was no answer to such a question in that moment, but I can tell you my answer now and what it will always be, “After me…Galen…after me.”
Hi Kenneth,
your story caught my eye, as my little girl dies from a condition called “vein of galen” anurisum. I think its wonderful that you have contact with your son, i have been to a medium and have recived messages and spoken to her, it has been the only thing that has helped me to carry on.
Jenny:
There are no words, as you know. I can give you the email address of Audrey Wrinkles (bluespiralhand@yahoo.com). Audrey is the trance medium whose guides put me in touch with Galen and their clarity has not equal and I speak from experience. I would not have been able to edit My Life after Life without them. Audrey is the real deal and it might be of assistance to you.
Hang in there.
Hi Kenneth,
Thanks so much, unfortunately i am based in Johannesburg, South Africa, so i dont think she would be able to help me from here. I was told by 2 different
‘real deal” mediums that she would be coming back at our next baby, as she was only 3 months when she passed. Do you think this is possible? It is all i have to cling on to at the moment.
Yes, that is indeed very possible. Galen told me that an infant under 9 months old belongs more to spirit then to the earth dimension, and that should anything untoward happen, the turn-around time can not only be very quick, but if you do get pregnant again that soul/spirit might very much like to return to your family.
Now, I do not know why the vein of Galen gave out in the first place other than to say matter is matter and it is not perfect, so these things happen. But I have known of these returns to the same family before, so I would not be surprised if you became pregnant again and with the exact same soul/spirit.
There is always a reason for we these things happen and I go over this with Galen in his second book, but that won’t be out till the first of next year.
The transition of a young baby back to spirit is seamless because they really never left that realm. And if it is your heart’s desire to become pregnant again, I hope that is what you manifest.
Thanks Kenneth, i thought i may have been crazy to believe it! It was mothers day yesterday, and i spent most of the day trying to put on a brave face for our other little girl, but inside i was broken, I should of had 2 beautiful daughters jumping on the bed yesterday, and it breaks my heart. I would love to have another child, but am to broken right now to think straight, so when the time is right, maybe towards the end of the year we will try again, i cant wait to give her or him all the love and hugs that we were not able to maddi as she was NNICU most of her life covered in machines and pipes.
The meduim told me that Maddi and i had decided this would happen while we were in the spirit world in order for me to learn and follow a path…. well if that is what she wanted then its exactly what has happened, as i have become more spiritual, and follwing a path, i never knew existed, and finding great comfort in it. She taught us so much is her short life, and we are forever changed.
That rings true. Strange what soul and spirit figure out (in a sense behind our backs). Be strong. and if I can be so crass, Galen’s book is available world wide online in both electronic and hard editions – I only mention it cause I think you will really like reading it.
I would love to read it, can you give me the name?
My Life after Life
http://www.my-life-after-life.com
Hi. Do you know if there is a way to book a reading with Audrey that doesn’t require me to go on Facebook?
Thank you.