Young People Grieving Over Multiple Losses
A “new normal” has invaded old paradigms and left kids missing a past world, uncertain of the present, and anxious of what tomorrow will bring. More than ever, adults must become role models, listen to their children’s pleas, understand the forces behind their behaviors, and care for their tender hearts yearning to be heard and respected.
Perhaps the new normal is just an open door into the transformation of antiquated ways of being that have outgrown themselves
The issues and grief techniques found in the previous edition of my book, Life and Loss, are both timely and timeless. They inspire young people towards expression of any childhood loss in a non-judgmental oasis of safety as they travel the path from grief to healing, whether it be the loss of a toy or death from the virus.
Young People Grieving Over New Losses
Current issues such as climate change, coronavirus, and social injustice demand immediate attention and exploration in order to conquer newfound challenges by using information so universally needed to reduce stress and anxiety. Kids have learned flexibility and accommodation during the pandemic. With maturity for their health and others, they diligently social distance, wash hands, wear masks, and sneeze into their elbows. Many have mastered perseverance, communication, and action for climate change, kindness, and compassion for others by speaking out against racial injustice, providing services for others, and demonstrating activities for a healthier planet.
Yet the majority of our youth ponder questions about the authenticity and security of older generations they no longer are willing to accept as caretakers. They ask their elders, “Why can’t you move forward with the immediacy of challenges surrounding climate change?”
“Why can’t you eradicate the polarization and factions ripping apart the fabric of society?”
“Why can’t you stop the racial injustice and live in an inclusive society?”
These questions without answers exist parallel to the attributes of resilience our youth are acquiring, attributes born and grown during turbulent times. Our children can only become stronger and more capable human beings with the support, understanding, guidance, and action from the adult world.
Their voices matter, their concerns are real, and their activism is inspiring.
Excerpted from Linda Goldman’s book, Life and Loss: A Guide to Help Grieving Children Classic Edition, Routledge, 2022
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